Many high achievers keep trying to fix their lives by rebuilding, but they rebuild the same patterns on the same toxic soil. Tanya C. Oliver learned that real change doesn’t come from renovating the old. It comes from building new from ground zero.
In this episode of One Part Lion, One Part Lamb, Stephen Scoggins sits down with Tanya, a performance coach for Kingdom entrepreneurs, former competitive ice hockey player, and author of Building the New, to talk about how to break old patterns and rebuild your identity from the inside out. Tanya shares the moment she decided to go all in on Jesus for one year, the frameworks that guided her transformation, and why your standards are the bodyguards that keep counterfeits out of your life. It’s the lion and lamb approach in action: the strength to own your patterns, paired with the surrender to let God reshape them.
Who Is Tanya C. Oliver?
Tanya C. Oliver is a performance coach who works with Kingdom entrepreneurs and a former competitive ice hockey player. She is the author of Building the New, which helps high achievers stop repeating old patterns and build a new foundation for their lives, rooted in their identity in Christ.
Key Takeaways From This Episode
- Don’t rebuild. Build new. Rebuilding on the same foundation tends to reproduce the same results.
- Transform any area with three steps: be honest, get curious, and seek solutions.
- If you’re the problem, you’re also the solution. Owning your part is the fastest way forward.
- A goal and a vision are not the same thing. Clarity comes when you start moving, not before.
- Regulate before you execute. Tanya’s four-part framework helps achievers grow into leaders.
- Procrastination isn’t laziness. “Active productive procrastination” can keep you busy while you stay stuck.
- Values become standards, standards become boundaries. Those boundaries protect you from counterfeits.
Rock Bottom and Going All In
Tanya describes the low point that led her to go all in on Jesus for one year, and how that decision became the starting point for Building the New. She also reflects on the question “Success for who?” and what her life looked like before she made that commitment.
The Honest Inventory: Be Honest, Get Curious, Seek Solutions
Tanya walks through the three-part framework she uses to transform any area of life. It starts with an honest inventory of where you are, moves into curiosity about why, and ends with real solutions. Stephen and Tanya talk about why owning the problem is also how you find the way out.
Goals, Visions, and the Hidden Cost of Procrastination
Tanya explains the difference between a goal and a vision, and why waiting for perfect clarity keeps people stuck. She and Stephen then dig into procrastination, how pressure refines us, and the trap of staying busy with the wrong work.
Regulation Before Execution
Tanya shares her four-part framework for moving from achiever to leader by regulating yourself before you act. The conversation then turns to fear versus love, healing the root of old patterns, inner child work, and learning to forgive yourself.
Your Standards Are Your Bodyguards
Tanya talks about knowing she is a daughter of the King and what it means to steward yourself well. She explains how values turn into standards, standards turn into boundaries, and how those boundaries keep counterfeits out of your life.
Episode Highlights
- 00:00 Intro and welcome
- 04:13 Building the New: rock bottom and going all in
- 09:44 Honest inventory: the 3-part framework
- 15:49 Success for who? Life before going all in
- 21:23 Goals vs. visions
- 25:44 Procrastination, pressure, and refinement
- 31:27 Regulation before execution: the 4-part framework
- 37:46 Fear vs. love: healing the root
- 49:13 Inner child work and forgiving yourself
- 1:01:02 “A daughter of the King” and stewarding self
- 1:15:06 Your standards are your bodyguards
- 1:22:08 Rapid fire
Frequently Asked Questions
How do you break old patterns for good?
Tanya C. Oliver teaches that you don’t rebuild on the old foundation; you build new from ground zero. Her three-part framework (be honest, get curious, seek solutions) helps you see the pattern clearly and replace it.
What is the difference between a goal and a vision?
A goal is a specific target, while a vision is the bigger picture of where you’re headed. Tanya explains that clarity about your vision often comes only after you start moving.
What is “active productive procrastination”?
It’s Tanya’s term for staying busy with tasks that feel productive while avoiding the work that actually matters. It looks like progress, but it keeps you stuck.
How do values, standards, and boundaries connect?
Your values shape your standards, and your standards become your boundaries. Tanya describes those standards as bodyguards that protect you from counterfeits.
What is Building the New about?
Tanya C. Oliver’s book helps high achievers stop repeating old patterns and rebuild their identity from the inside out, with faith in Jesus at the center.
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